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Being a “conservative” means a lot of different things to me.  It describes my preference in government, my lifestyle, even the way I dress.  But today I want to bring attention to people who are calling themselves politically conservative, yet not living the lifestyle that they purport to believe in.

Last November, I found myself recovering from reconstructive ankle surgery on my mother’s couch.  I couldn’t go anywhere or do anything for almost a month, so the internet became my very best friend.  After reading everything there was to read, playing all the games I had the energy to play, and chatting with everyone who would listen, I found myself on Twitter.

I’d had a Twitter account for at least a year, but never really “got it.”  But this time, I found a group of youngsters (ranging in age from 20-30) who work in D.C. for various political entities, all seeming to be the frontrunners in the world of conservative political media and the “who’s who” of #TCOT.  What a fun bunch!  I shared their interests and beliefs and truly enjoyed talking to them at length.

Somewhere between then and now, the associations spread to even lesser acquaintances of theirs, and my group of followers turned into a mix of all ages and walks of life.  As in real life, I began to notice a few things that I truly dislike in people: young women throwing themselves at men or exhibiting “attention-seeking behavior” (think making out with another girl at a frat party), rumors or even confirmations of people sleeping around, requests for provocative photos, men completely objectifying women, married men openly flirting, and even married men flirting with me.

I do not associate with these sort of people in everyday life, and I finally had to make the decision to not associate with them online as well.  I have been interested in men who I think are great guys, only to find out that they drunkenly slept with one of my good friends.  It is so very disappointing – the man you thought was virtuous took advantage of the situation, and your friend can’t make a good decision either.  I know that they are both single, and can do as they wish and that’s fine – it’s just disappointing and rules him out of the dating pool for me, as well as lessens my female friend in my eyes.  I don’t form friendships with married men unless their wife is a part of the friendship as well.  I rarely have sex outside of an established relationship, and I don’t unabashedly flirt with men unless I know I’m the only one he’s interested in. I don’t expect everyone to subscribe to my way of life, and Lord knows that I am not perfect and I have slipped up my fair share of times, but I am aware of my flaws and actively try not to repeat my mistakes.  Above all, I know that by having this sort of romantic life, I don’t have to worry about hurting anyone, especially myself.

Back to my initial point – on a very basic level, this is the behavior that Conservative politicians get skewered for.  Infidelity, exchanging photos with women, etc, and you certainly never heard of Condi Rice flirting with a married man.  It’s ten times worse for the conservative party because we are supposed to uphold the virtues of marriage, be good Christians, revere women, and overall just NOT do this type of thing!  These are our future lobbyists, campaign managers, speech writers, journalists, and possibly even leaders.  We cannot hold our leaders to a higher standard than we hold ourselves.  They may believe in small government and fiscal conservatism, but that seems to be where their conservative beliefs end.  Do you really want this type of behavior to be associated with the conservative party?

The local Young Republican branches here are riddled with some questionable morals as well.  The social director of the YR group in my county openly brags to his friends about getting blow jobs in parking lots and taking women home from bars (even if it’s not true, women should not be spoken of in this manner), and another group’s leadership includes women who go home with strangers from bars.  So there is yet another place that I can’t in good conscience associate with like-minded people.  Don’t even get me started on the fact that the majority of young attendees of CPAC see it as an opportunity to get plastered and hook up.

At last, after actually being quite hurt by some of the behavior mentioned above, I have deleted my Twitter account.  I do miss it – I miss getting news updates through the eyes of fellow conservatives.  I miss having someone to talk to when I can’t sleep.  But I don’t miss being constantly disappointed by my peers.  In time, I hope to move past all this disappointment and find some true (trruuuuuuue) conservatives that lead virtuous lives and set a better example for the type of leaders I hope to elect.  Meanwhile, I ask my #tcot readers – are you really living a conservative life?


I attended the Dallas Tea Party (T.E.A. = Taxed Enough Already)!

I do love a good political rally.  It was fun…I could only stay for about an hour though.  A girl can only take so much standing on concrete in heels.  So that was fun, it reminded me that my views on the current political situation are shared by thousands (perhaps millions) across the country.  Of course I am disappointed in the media coverage – in most cases the turnout is understated, or they are saying the movement is misguided (thanks, CNN).  Most of the coverage went to Fort Worth because governor Rick Perry showed up there.  I’m glad the Dallas rally didn’t have all the political election hoo-ha.  It was by the citizens, for the citizens and all that good stuff.

For those of you that don’t get it…let me try to sum it up for you.  We don’t like to have our hard-earned money given away to others.  We work hard for ourselves, not for others.  This time it’s not taxation without representation, it’s that our representation isn’t LISTENING.  Taxes are a necessary evil…but this is out of control.  O.O.C. I tell  ya!

The emcee, Mark Davis, quoted some things from Atlas Shrugged (a book I have started but have yet to finish…come on, it’s really really long!) that I would like to share. These can all be attributed to Ayn Rand (obviously).

I swear by my life, and my love of it, that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine.

In other words – I work for myself, not for the lazy people (in Atlas Shrugged they are called the “moochers”).

So you think that money is the root of all evil? Have you ever asked what is the root of money? Money is a tool of exchange, which can’t exist unless there are goods produced and men able to produce them. Money is the material shape of the principle that men who wish to deal with one another must deal by trade and give value for value. Money is not the tool of the moochers, who claim your product by tears or of the looters, who take it from you by force. Money is made possible only by the men who produce. Is this what you consider evil?

In other words – money is necessary.  Get over it.  Get some of your own.

I’m too tired for anything in-depth tonight but I always have opinions…

Buy Smaller Eggs, Ease Hens’ Pain: Farmer

Most people will say: What??  I like those bigass eggs!  I’m not paying an extra $1.50 to buy two dozen eggs to get the same amount I’d get in a dozen large!

I say: Now here’s someone I don’t mind helping out.  I will definitely take this into account when I am purchasing my free-range, cage free, organic eggs (seriously I do this…have you ever SEEN a chicken farm?  It’s awful.  Those little gals need all the help we can give them).

Texas unemployment fund running low

Most people will say: the government needs to give us more money!

I say: Uh oh…I better try extra hard to not spend too much money and look for a job.  I’m lucky to get anything they can give me and ever-so-grateful that ANY money is available.

Mass Earmarks Have Familiar Theme: Kennedys

Most people will say: Aw how nice, those Kennedys are such nice people.

I say: Ted Kennedy is a womanizing douche-bag, and if you do a little research you’ll learn that the other men in the family follow suit.  BTW, ask a teacher about the difficulty of teaching in a “No Child Left Behind” classroom.

Moderate Dems Balk Over Obama Deficit

(the story begins with how it’s not the president that passes the budget, it’s congress)

Most people will say: It’s not Obama’s fault!!

I say: That’s exactly right, one man cannot take full blame for an entire nation’s problems, nor can he take full credit for its successes.  I’m glad at least SOME people aren’t putting all of their faith in just one MAN.

‘Friendly’ Alabama Gunman Kept Hit List

Most people will say: OMG That guy was completely nuts!

I say: Yeah, that’s why you don’t act like a dick to people.  They might grow up to be crazy.

This is the face I make when you say something stupid.

This is the face I make when you say something stupid.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve noticed things. These things that I notice are things that make you appear stupid.  There are many categories of “things that make you appear stupid,” but today we’re going to focus on the improper use of the English language.

I am not talking about typos.  Typos are acceptable in informal arenas (your Facebook wall, texts, an email to your Dad).  Yes I can tell the difference between a typo and ignorance.  Typos are things like teh-the, from-form…you know what I mean: you really do know how to use the word/punctuation correctly, you just type too fast and overlook the mistake.  However, when I notice that a person frequently says “your” instead of “you’re,” or “to” where they should have used “too…” I start to lose faith in their intelligence and really do treat them differently.

Here’s the deal: at first I see/hear the infraction and I think “wait, what?” and then I make sure I don’t misunderstand, then I realize that I am not misunderstanding, you are being confusing.  Then I get irritated and lose a little bit of respect for you.

Some people say I’m judgmental;  I say that these people are usually the people who can’t use the English language properly, which means that we are brought back to our initial conclusion that these people are stupid.

It is one thing to be uninformed.  It is quite another to be obtuse and uninterested in writing and speaking correctly.  Look, how much effort does it take to PAY ATTENTION to what you’re reading or listening to, and to apply what you see and hear to things that you usually say?  Do you honestly see the word “could’ve” and not connect that to yourself saying “could of?”  This means that you also do not understand the concept of a contraction being the junction of two words by use of an apostrophe.  This means that you do not understand that COULD’VE = COULD + HAVE, and not COULD + OF.  Are you starting to see why I think you’re stupid?

You probably should just be using “had” anyway…

As long as we’re talking about the effect that paying attention could have on your ability to communicate, let’s look at an epidemic of punctuation horror that has been plaguing the interwebs as of late.  THE APOSTROPHE.  Wow, this sucker is being used a LOT!  Guess what?  An apostrophe is not used to make something plural.  There is kind of an understood acceptance that it helps when pluralizing single letters or acronyms, but that’s pretty much the only exception.  Wait, do you even know what “plural” means?  Anyway, if I see PILLOW’S OR CAT’S one more time without ownership of something I’m going to shoot myself.  The pillow’s what?  What could a pillow possibly have??  A case?  A stain?

Before you pluralize something, maybe you should do some research!

Offenses that quickly downgrade my opinion of you:


You say: HAND AND HAND but it’s really: HAND IN HAND.

You say: JUST ASSUME but it’s really: JUST AS SOON.

You say: NOW AND DAYS but it’s really NOWADAYS.

You say: TOOKEN but it’s really: TAKEN.  (Tooken is not even a word!)

You write: RIGHT OF PASSAGE but it’s really: RITE OF PASSAGE (there’s no spoken difference, it can only be seen when written).

You say: SUPPOSABLY but it’s really: SUPPOSEDLY.

You write: YEA, but it’s really: YEAH (YEA is a vote opposite of nay).

You say: UNCHARTERED, but it’s really: UNCHARTED.

You say: AWE, but it’s really: AW (As in how cute.  They’re two completely different words.)

OK, I could go on forever.  I swear, nothing disappoints me more than to be talking to someone, or listening to a speaker or trainer and they misuse a common saying or word.  It’s just such a letdown.  Hey, I get it, the English language is tough and people speak funny and it’s  hard to understand some things.  But there comes a point in time where you have to expand your horizons and pay attention to more than what’s right in front of you.

There are hundreds more examples here:

If you aren’t interested in reading those…for God’s sake read a F-ing book.

Much thanks to Rob and Emmett for your suggestions!